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The Blessing of Pink Eye

By Sue Graber

 

Definition of BLESSING:

"When a bad event or misfortune results in something positive."

(taken from Idiom Quest)

Have you ever had pink eye?  Last year about this time, I spent a few days pretty much isolated because of this special "gift" my little grandson shared with me.  This little incident was not a big deal but ended up being an “eye opener” (no pun intended) as to how even some of the littlest things that distract us from our normal routine can actually be special blessings.

 

Looking for the Positive

Have you ever had something traumatic happen and at the time you felt there could be no possible good to come out of this situation?  Then, later, as you look back at events that have transpired, you realize that there definitely was a “positive” that resulted from this particular event that you first thought of only as negative!

Pink eye was just a little thing that caused me to miss a day of work and forced me to stay home, but it also brought me back to an attitude of gratefulness for every day that I wake up “normal.”  It's so easy to take for granted all of our normal routines such as getting out of bed, being able to walk, see, hear – all of the senses that many of us just use without thinking or being thankful for!  I actually was able to catch up on some much needed rest, do some housecleaning that I had been putting off, and work on some articles I had been procrastinating about!

Once I was “non contagious” I was able to spend the evening with a close friend of mine who was visiting from out of town and I hadn’t seen for some time – she had recently gone through knee surgery and was needing either crutches or a cane to simply maneuver herself around.  She reinforced what I was feeling – having taken something for granted that normally we wouldn't even think about — her struggle was going for a simple walk without pain.   We both were reminded how easy it is to take things for granted and to be frustrated when things are out of sync, instead of being totally grateful for what we DO have.

 

 BLESSINGS THROUGH TRIALS

"If this is a blessing, it is certainly very well disguised.

Winston Churchhill

 As I began to think a little deeper about “blessings in disguise,” I was reminded of some challenging times – the absolute worst trauma in my life when my brother was tragically killed; later my husband was downsized from his corporate job.  The following year I was diagnosed with breast cancer.  My dad was also very ill during this time.   I began to wonder what the “blessings” were that came out of these particular situations.

Worry does no good!

A Scripture verse from Matthew kept coming to me where God reminds us if he cares even for the little sparrows, how much more doesn't He cares about us and the things going on in our lives– whether it is a small challenge or a large traumatic event in our lives.

 

 God cared about my “pink eye” which was really a very small inconvenience for me; He was there through all the times when I was going through treatment, and  I was blessed during that time with wonderful doctors, nurses and a special new friend who I would never have met if she and I hadn’t shared that same experience! 

Because of the trials in our lives, my husband and I were nudged along to go after dreams of working from home and finding ways to help others do the same.   The people we have met along the way have been TRUE BLESSINGS and had none of the above challenges happened, we would have missed out on some really great friendships! 

It’s hard to see the blessings when you face real tragedies.  Rather than a blessing, it is a lesson that you learn or strength and character that you gain from going through a difficult situation. You look at life differently  because of what you've experienced.  My dad was a wonderful fatherr, a great friend, a strong example of a real servant.  What a blessing to have had such a loving earthly father.  Losing my brother at such a young age has caused me to become more compassionate.  It has caused me to reach out to others who have such losses and it has also made me very grateful that his family is still in my life.  My brother was very special  to me; I wish I had told him that more often.  Don’t be afraid to tell those you love how much they mean to you. By sharing some of my life, I'm hoping others will be drawn to be more compassionate to those who come in their path in a way that will make a difference in the world. 

 Every day is a new day – a fresh start – a time to look for all the blessings that are out there! 

 The unthankful heart discovers no mercies; but the thankful heart will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings.”  Henry Ward Beecher

 

 Is there someone in your life who needs to know what a blessing they are to you?  Perhaps in need of some encouragement? You have the chance every day to make a difference in someone's life. 

You'll be glad you did.   

You can share any comments with me on Facebook.

I'd love to hear about YOUR "blessings in disguise."

 

Sue Graber has been happily married for 35 years, raising 3 daughters

 

while working creatively from home as an administrative assistant and a fund-raising specialist. She loves reaching out to others in kindness and is on a mission. She has an amazing ability to teach others how to build and nurture relationships, spend quality time with their families while generating income from home with a greeting card and gifting business. Sue is passionate about showing others how they, too, can make a difference every single day!

{ 56 comments… read them below or add one }

Michele Tremblay June 27, 2011 at 1:55 PM

Sue,
This is a topic I have spent a great deal of time considering. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
My Mom died when I was 19 years old. I ended up leaving college, which was about 2 hours away from home, and moving back in with my family to help care for my sister who was 10 at the time of my Mom's death. All of the friends I have now in my life would not be my friends if this terrible event had not happened, as they are all friends I made at my new college…the one I commuted to while living at home.
I would never recommend losing your Mom at such a tender age, but you are so right when you say there are always blessings to be found.
Thanks again.

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Sue June 27, 2011 at 11:42 PM

Michele, I can’t imagine losing a parent at such a young age; my heart goes out to you. How special that you were there for your younger sister and what a blessing that you did meet some friends for a lifetime when changing schools. When you’re in the middle of a tragedy, it’s hard to see beyond it, but as the years go by, we do get to see the bigger picture. You have a beautiful heart and touch many lives! So glad we’re connected here on FB and esp in Sandi’s group! Thank you for sharing!

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Anne (Annie) Berryhill June 27, 2011 at 2:05 PM

Aww Sue, I just want to hug you right now! What a great reminder, it really touched my heart. Its great to remember how loved and cared for we are by our Daddy, but it is also a great reminder to be compassionate towards others who are going through trial because we may be in switched places at some point! What a nice thing to read this morning!

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Sue June 27, 2011 at 11:46 PM

Thanks, Annie…I felt that hug today (which by the way I needed!) How did you know? LOL I appreciate your kind words and your willingness to step into the lives of others where they need that compassion. It’s so fun getting to know everyone in our group and being able to just be who we are! (Hugs) back to you!

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Olga Hermans June 28, 2011 at 11:02 AM

HI Sue, I love the new color on your website, I also liked the red though. I know those times that we go through disppointments and grieving of lost ones in our life. But I am thankful that I am saved and loved by my heavenly Father, that's what counts for me. It is sad to see that people go through things by themselves, not knowing that everything could be easier for them. I am also very thankful just as you are!!

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Tiffany July 1, 2011 at 6:41 PM

Too cute! I love the caption on the pic:) Isn't it funny how we get so clouded by what's not going right that we can't see what is. I love your reflection on past tragic events and how you've spotlighted the blessings. I wanted everyone to just stop when my dad passed. However, things went on and I had to push within myself to move forward. God is in the blessing business regardless of the situation.

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Sue July 3, 2011 at 12:46 PM

You’re so right, Tiffany. I love the way you say “God is in the blessing business” — That first experience I had with the death of someone special in my life made me think that everyone else should be stopping and sharing in my grief. I’ve learned to give others a little grace, as many times they truly don’t understand what you are going through, but it has helped me to become a more compassionate person and that is a blessing. I’m sure your dad would be extremely proud of you!

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Patricia Ogilvie May 9, 2012 at 8:49 AM

thank you for sharing… greet job today!

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Patricia Ogilvie May 9, 2012 at 8:50 AM

that’s great – not greet!!! LOL

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Sue May 10, 2012 at 12:35 AM

Thanks for stopping by Patricia!

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Alexandra McAllister May 9, 2012 at 9:14 AM

Oh, Sue! Thanks for sharing such a heartfelt story! Love it! Hugs to you and your beautiful grandchild! God bless you.

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Sherie May 9, 2012 at 9:44 AM

Sue, your post has touched my heart. Seeing the silver lining when it isn’t apparent is a trait that so few have…yet it needs to be cultivated, by all of us. These small inconveniences are often blessings in disguise, like you pointed out. My heart goes out to you for the tragedy you have had in your life..it is a testament to your strong spirit that you have shared your story so that others could learn. Great post!

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Sue May 10, 2012 at 12:36 AM

Thanks for reading it Alexandra. Sending hugs back to someone I’m so thankful to have met here!

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Sue May 10, 2012 at 12:49 AM

Sheri, thanks for the kind words. It’s true that until we face certain things, we just don’t always realize the hurts & disappointments others are facing. Definitely have become more compassionate because of these challenges. Very much appreciate your comments~

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Sara Nickleberry May 9, 2012 at 10:16 AM

Often times we take things for granted that we enjoy everyday. Makes you more aware of being grateful. Your grandson is adorable!!

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Sue May 10, 2012 at 12:46 AM

Absolutely! Trying myself to remember to intentionally write down things every day that I’m grateful for. Used to say I had “bad hair days” — now realizing how grateful just to have hair!! Thanks for the nice comment aboud my grandson…he is a honey! Love him

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Olga Hermans May 9, 2012 at 10:48 AM

Loved to read this post Sue, so every encouraging to read how you get along with your little challenges and show us how we shouldn’t take them for granted!! Awesome!

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Sue May 10, 2012 at 12:44 AM

Thanks Olga! Know that you’ve had your share of challenges as well. How wonderful to have such caring friends! Appreciate you

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Liz May 9, 2012 at 11:56 AM

this is awesome! My poor husband had it and it hurt him so! I love this post because I do get all out of sorts about small things that do not make a hill of beans in the long run! Thank you Sue!

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Sue May 10, 2012 at 12:44 AM

You’re welcome, Liz. Thanks for the comment, and I’m sure if we’re honest, we’d all admit that we sometimes “sweat the small things” — I love your phrase “hill of beans” – Makes me laugh and remember how my mom always used to say that!!

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Anita May 9, 2012 at 1:48 PM

How very touching and we are so blessed you would share it with us! I will be sharing your wisdom :)

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Sue May 10, 2012 at 12:42 AM

Thanks Anita! Glad you stopped by!

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Heather May 9, 2012 at 7:18 PM

I will keep this post in mind the next time my twins “share” a bad cold or a tummy bug with me. Yes it’s the things like walking and talking and breathing that we take for granted— when we get seriously ill, that’s when we really think about it! Thanks for your post!

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Sue May 10, 2012 at 12:42 AM

Thanks Heather! It’s easy for all of us to take things for granted that seem ordinary but if taken away, definitely change our outlook of things! Thanks for the comment!

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Kim Garst May 9, 2012 at 7:26 PM

This made me think of the saying the best prayers are sometimes unanswered prayers. Sometimes we get so focused on the ‘problem’ that we don’t realize until later what could have happened if that problem had not been in our life. Or we might miss other blessing simply because we were so wrapped up in a bad situation. You are right…stopping to be thankful even in adversity is definitely a must do!

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Sue May 10, 2012 at 12:40 AM

Thanks for the comment, Kim. Amazing how God brings good out of everything that happens, even if we don’t always understand it at the time. Love that even in the midst of adversity, He puts people in our lives to get us through!

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Sue Glashower May 9, 2012 at 7:37 PM

That is so true Sue! It makes me thing of the song “Blessings” by Laura Story. What a sweet little grandson you have:)

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Mandy Edwards May 9, 2012 at 7:40 PM

You are so right Sue. We usually see the negative first, but then we get the perspective. Your grandson is adorable!!!

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Sue May 10, 2012 at 12:37 AM

Thanks Mandy! He definitely is one of the BIG blessings in my life, even if he did give me pink eye!

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Shelley Owens May 9, 2012 at 8:52 PM

This article reminds me of the conversation that goes on quite often between my husband and I. When adversity hits our family/marriage, he is the “sky is falling guy” and I am the “glass is half full girl”! Some people are wired to see the hidden blessings and others need help finding them. Thanks for sharing!

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Sue May 10, 2012 at 1:34 PM

That’s true Shelley! I’m glad to see that you se the glass half full. Makes life a lot more fun & peaceful! Glad you enjoyed the post!

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okanlawon May 10, 2012 at 12:16 AM

Thank you sue…I ve learn from your story and hope it will make me a better person.will love to read more of your article.God bless you.

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Carele Belanger May 10, 2012 at 7:45 AM

Great article. There is always something positive out of everything happening.

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Suzanne Jones May 10, 2012 at 11:53 AM

So so true if only more were willing to see the value in it. I have had many many traumas that led to great things…actually hundreds of great things, be it lessons or situations that brought awareness, and the awareness leading to the prevention of something unpleasant happening.

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Michael McDonald May 10, 2012 at 10:32 PM

Wow. Great post. Cherish every moment we have and realize that there are no coincidences in God’s universe. It all happens for a reason.

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RJ, the Hope Coach May 13, 2012 at 12:07 AM

Thank you for sharing such a great inspiring experience. Even those little trials (that often seem to bring with them the big challenges!) can be a blessing if we’re willing to be open to it!

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Carl Mason-Liebenberg May 13, 2012 at 4:11 AM

I feel this way about cancer. It was not nice by any stretch of the imagination and I certainly would not wish it on anyone. Bu, wow what a blessing it became in my life! I am very glad for the experience, the lessons learned and the opportunites revealed from having gone through it!

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Sue May 14, 2012 at 10:01 AM

What a great attitude, Carl. I totally understand what you are saying. Even though those experiences aren’t fun by any means the blessings that come through change our lives. YOU are an inspiration to me!

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Susan Preston May 13, 2012 at 8:00 AM

I love this article. It really resonated with me. I too have learned that what maybe an inconvenience in reality is really a blessing. When we can have gratitude for the experience that Adversity has given us, we will later see the blessing and the lesson that it was giving to us. Thank you for sharing your great wisdom.

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Sue May 14, 2012 at 10:02 AM

Thanks Susan. Sometimes the inconveniences of life are just what we need to get us going in the right direction and as you said, there are hidden blessings! Have a great day!

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Jennifer May 15, 2012 at 12:04 PM

I LOVE this story Sue! Whenever something bad happens to me I just wait for (and work for) the blessing, because it always comes. My biggest to date has been being fired from a job I thought I’d have forever. It happened about 15 years ago and I thought my life was over. Within a year I was financially WAY more secure and firmly on this wonderful journey of entrepreneurship. Turns out it was the best thing that ever happened to me!

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Sue May 15, 2012 at 3:17 PM

Good for you.. knowing that the blessings are there! I agree wholeheartedly. We went through a similar situation and now when we look back, we realize it WAS the best thing that ever happened to us…..otherwise we would have been stuck in Corporate America forever!! Thanks for sharing!

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Designer Rob Russo May 16, 2012 at 11:49 AM

Oh, don’t you just love blessings in disguise? I know I do… At least after the fact — never in the moment before realization. Ha!

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Lorii Abela August 29, 2012 at 11:00 AM

Thanks for sharing a part of your life through this post, Sue. It’s heartwarming and inspiring.

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Terressa Cortez August 29, 2012 at 3:48 PM

What an inspiring article. Thank you for sharing. I am learning to be grateful through many difficult times in my life right now. Not always easy. I am constantly reminding myself to be grateful for the things that are rigth in my life.

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Sue August 31, 2012 at 7:39 PM

Thanks Terressa. Sometimes it is hard to find the gratitude but when we dig deep, it starts pouring out and sometimes we find unexpected blessings. Thinking of you and grateful for your friendship!

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denny hagel August 29, 2012 at 5:45 PM

One of the most important things I stress to parents is to share the notion with their children that everything is an opportunity and a blessing…we must train our children to approach life with a mindset of gratitude…look for the gold God is bringing us no matter how it is disguised, it is there. Thanks for sharing your positive spirit!

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Sue August 31, 2012 at 7:38 PM

Thanks Denny for the comment! You’re absolutely right. Learning gratitude at an early age helps it become ingrained in our being! Amazing what we can see as a blessing if we simply start with an attitude of gratitude. Appreciate your support!

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Suzanne Jones September 1, 2012 at 8:17 AM

I recently has something occur that made me very sad and uncomfortable. In the end, as usual, so much more was brought to me..we must remember some ‘forced’ change or those’ stop you in your tracks ‘ moments will bring about great things if you choose to see it.
Thanks for sharing Sue :)

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Sara Nickleberry September 2, 2012 at 8:38 PM

I’m looking forward for the blessings through my current trials :)

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Sue September 9, 2012 at 9:06 PM

That’s a great attitude to have Sara! There will be blessings, I’m confident!

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Michael McDonald September 3, 2012 at 2:11 PM

Thanks for sharing Sue. I don’t believe hardships are sent to teach lessons but there are usually lessons to be learned from them. Hopefully I can see what I’m meant to see.

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Sue September 9, 2012 at 9:07 PM

I agree… we have something to learn from every experience we go through… thanks for stopping by!

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Vicky September 4, 2012 at 5:01 AM

Truly inspiring… thank you for sharing Sue.

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Edmund Lee September 6, 2012 at 12:31 AM

Thank you so much for sharing your story. Yes, it seems that often times when we’re faced in the heart of tribulation and hardships, it’s difficult to see the good in what is happening. It’s not until afterwards that we realize how wonderful and rewarding that experience has been in shaping our lives.

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Sue September 9, 2012 at 9:09 PM

You’re absolutely right Edmund. There’s something good that comes out of every experience, even if we can’t see it at the time we’re going through it.

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